TL;DR: I was bullied by two teachers from GCSE-A Level that jumpstarted my anxiety attacks. School sucks and university is not that great.
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Ahh, A Level Results Day. You can almost smell the panic in the air as students are grappling with each other to get a place at university. It takes me back to August 18th, 2012 when it was my turn to panic. I stayed up the whole night before online, feverishly sharing my anxiety with fellow students on The Student Room, a forum for students.
I spent hours checking out every possible avenue until I had a game plan for each possible outcome. It was hard to maintain a positive attitude when adrenaline was being pumped through your veins.
I was running on fumes (which seems to be about the only consistent thing about me) and a few litres of energy drinks. I arrived at my sixth form at 7am, wearing a peach and black fitted dress, a cream cardigan and beige boots. I remember spending hours picking out what I was going to wear to say ‘Sayonara, suckers!’ to everyone at my school.
Yeah, needless to say, I really hated ‘W’ School towards the end.
When I first started AS Levels, I was highly optimistic and couldn’t wait to FINALLY be treated like an equal by my teachers. I had chosen Media Studies, Film Studies and English literature and language (which was two courses combined into one). My teachers for Media and Film were okay.
I loved Mr E. He was highly passionate about Film and it showed. He talked 100 words a second and I always brought a notebook with me. His word was God to me. We quickly established a witty rapport; he would greet me with “Oh no, here comes trouble!” when I walked into the classroom. Our class was intimate and small – a full house usually meant about 15 people and by the end of Christmas break, it got to about 10 of us. By June, there was 5 of us.
All three classes were taught by two sets of teachers. Film was taught by Mr E and Miss D. I already had a bad relationship with Miss D from year 10 (age 15?) until I finished her class in year 11. She had some vendetta against me and even though I got an A in her class, she still had it in for me.
Granted, my work ethic wasn’t exactly the best, but I was passionate and willing to learn and listen. It seemed that all she wanted to do was embarrass me and humiliate me in class. I dreaded going and as a result, the anxiety attacks started.
I remember the first full-blown one I had; I was sleeping on the top bunk in my room and I sat in my bed, bolt-upright and looked at the ceiling and thought I saw a rat running across it, circling the lampshade. I screamed for help and my mum came running into my room, tried to calm me down but I couldn’t stop screaming and screaming. It was the night before my media exam and Miss D had instilled full-blown panic in me. Luckily, the panic wore off, at least for a year or so.
Miss D calmed down around the second, and last year, of A Level.
We later found out why; she was engaged to be married and was leaving us…in the middle of our exams. The exams that determined whether or not we would have a future.
You know, no big.
This act of selfishness didn’t surprise me. She had a long history of being malicious for self-purpose. One day, while Mr E was teaching, we were told a woman would be coming in to talk to us and we would have to be on our best behaviour.
A small nervous blonde woman timidly walked in and gave us a talk about our exams, asked us questions and delivered a lesson with a PowerPoint presentation. The head of our year, Mr W sat in on the lesson, which I think only made the poor woman more nervous. She later became our substitute teacher. She was the most down-to-earth, sweetest woman I ever met.
She was everything a teacher should be; inspiring, encouraging and open to ideas.
Miss D was a horrible teacher, but she was by far only the second-worst teacher I ever had to deal with during my A Levels.
Miss P was a short, angry woman. She played up to the ‘feminazi’ role as much as she could. She was our English teacher and also second in command of the English department. The first time she met me, in year 10, (what is wrong with teachers and 15-year-old me?!), and I was sitting in the back of my homeroom, in the reading area my tutor set up, with a book, quietly reading. She pointed me out to my tutor and said
“That one looks like a trouble-maker.”
I looked up, raised my eyebrow at my tutor and she shrugged. She had no idea either. I don’t know what happened, but Miss P warmed up to me from year 11 onwards. She had a bad habit of having favourites and everyone knew it.
Miss P was also wildly racist – to Turks. She had a weird fetish for black students. I heard stories of her openly flirting with male black students, and of course, they played up to it; who doesn’t love an ‘A’?
Anyway, the favourites. If you were her favourite, you would get a front-row seat in her class; she organised it so there was a ‘special’ table and if you were sat there, you knew you were special and the other kids hated you for it. She would give me books (she must’ve realised I was bookworm and promptly made me her favourite after reviewing my coursework) and pull me aside for ‘private’ talks about my future career in English.
I don’t know if it was me choosing media/journalism that disappointed her and made her drop me as a favourite (I won’t lie; it was nice not to be her target for a while) or if it was the fact that I didn’t play up to her like the others did.
The mood dramatically shifted. She began striking terror into me. The anxiety flooded back.
One day, an essay was due. This was the fifth one she had asked us to do in two weeks. I was already exhausted; for media, we had to write, plan, film and edit a soap opera trailer, along with writing up over 50 blog posts on the project, for film, we had to sit and analyse three different films.
All were due around the same time. So needless to say, my priorities were a little shifted. I wasn’t going to complete an essay that wasn’t going to be graded and let my other work fall behind because of the ego of this woman. I realised that she didn’t even look at the essays. She just looked at whether or not we blindly obeyed her.
So, that day, I realised that out of a class of 20, only 4 had actually completed the essay. She locked her laser sights on me and told me to get out of her classroom. I went quiet for a moment. I looked at her and asked why only me? I wasn’t loud, I didn’t say a word to anyone when I walked into the classroom, I pulled out a folder, books and a pencilcase, but she only picked on me.
She repeated “Get out. Go to the stockroom and do that essay.”
I quietly packed up my stuff. The classroom was silent and bristling with tension. I was steaming inside. All of them had made the same mistake I had, but I was the only one being punished? As I got up to leave, I saw my long-time friend of 14 years, James pack up his stuff and push his chair back to leave with me.
“Sit down, James.”
“I didn’t do the essay either, shouldn’t I leave too?”
“No. Sit down.”
He sat down fuming. He stared daggers at her. She pretended not to notice and gestured to the door at me. I walked out and I didn’t go to the stockroom. I went right to the Sixth Form office and made a formal complaint. This was bullying. I was being bullied by a teacher.
She didn’t even offer a reason as to why he was special. Why the whole class was special and exempt from punishment.
Needless to say, the school stood behind her, despite there being records of complaints dating back for years. Michael Jackson’s “They Don’t Really Care About Us” comes to mind.
So that’s my story. It didn’t really lead anywhere, except for the fact that I am now at university and dealing with a lecturer who gives me anxiety attacks. Another story? Perhaps. But we’ll see how that progresses.